The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Couple is too eager / wants more than I want to give

knottyboi · 12-28-2006, 11:23 PM

I'm very new to the swinger scene and I need some advice. Just a few weeks ago I met a nice couple (I'm a single female) and last weekend we hooked up. It was great and I really enjoyed myself. We had been e-mailing back and forth before that a few times, but ever since we had sex, they have been e-mailing me almost every day and if I don't write back quickly, they will write within a few hours and ask if I got their previous e-mail. All of a sudden I feel very pressured and while I did want to get back together, now I'm afraid that if I did, the need for constant communication and attention would only escalate.

I know that many people that are swingers do want to be friends with the people they swing with - but to be completely honest, I don't. I want to be friendly, like each other, and talk a few times, but other than that, I just want to have a stress-free, no emotional ties, sexual good time. If I wanted the stress and emotional ties, I would find a polyamorous partner.

I am flattered that they had such a blast with me that they want to do it again ASAP, but now I feel pestered and what was fun is now becoming rapidly unfun. This is the first couple I've been with and I don't really know how to handle it correctly.

(I apologize if this shows up twice, I accidentally posted this once before I logged in).

12-28-2006, 11:23 PM	#1 (permalink)
knottyboi Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 10 Location: Kentucky Status: Single female Swing Lifestyle Name:knottyboi	Couple is too eager / wants more than I want to give I'm very new to the swinger scene and I need some advice. Just a few weeks ago I met a nice couple (I'm a single female) and last weekend we hooked up. It was great and I really enjoyed myself. We had been e-mailing back and forth before that a few times, but ever since we had sex, they have been e-mailing me almost every day and if I don't write back quickly, they will write within a few hours and ask if I got their previous e-mail. All of a sudden I feel very pressured and while I did want to get back together, now I'm afraid that if I did, the need for constant communication and attention would only escalate. I know that many people that are swingers do want to be friends with the people they swing with - but to be completely honest, I don't. I want to be friendly, like each other, and talk a few times, but other than that, I just want to have a stress-free, no emotional ties, sexual good time. If I wanted the stress and emotional ties, I would find a polyamorous partner. I am flattered that they had such a blast with me that they want to do it again ASAP, but now I feel pestered and what was fun is now becoming rapidly unfun. This is the first couple I've been with and I don't really know how to handle it correctly. (I apologize if this shows up twice, I accidentally posted this once before I logged in).