The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Will you turn down swinging with someone because they are TOO attractive?

Spoomonkey · 12-28-2006, 06:32 PM

I actually have to type three separate answers. So, here they are in no particular order:

1. Prettier than I think...

I have always said that I just don't like women who think they are prettier than I do. There is just something about those gorgeous, down-to-earth, non-assumptive types that really trip my trigger.

There are women who come to our club obviously to be looked at - they change clothes nine times per night, dance alone in front of the mirror and generally have a "here I am!" attitude that just doesn't do a thing for me.

Then you have their husbands who stand around with a beer or twelve with this air of "look who I get to fuck tonight" - and I just wonder why they even bothered to come to a club.

The funny thing is, the most attractive women I have ever seen in the lifestyle... I've had great chemistry with them! Then again - maybe I am just blinded by their "real-ness" that to me is just so freakin' hot that it makes sparks.

2. Social awkwardness knows no class

Now to be fair, some beautiful people are just as nervous and socially awkward as the rest of us and they struggle to meet people for the same reasons we do. They look too good to not be confident - but they probably aren't. You'd be surprised. Still - they have to learn to step out of their comfort zones and say hello - just like the rest of us...

3. The waters part for thee...

There have been times where we have felt like we were being stone-walled at our club - and we've asked around. "What's wrong with us?" Well, we've gotten the responses ranging from "nothing" to "you are kind of intimidating" to "you guys are a bit to 'Ken & Barbie'." Ouch... But, yep... We've had that leveled at us a time or two...

This always surprises me. I mean - Barbie I can see, but Ken??? More like Barbie and one of those Furby dolls maybe. But the point is, you never know what people think of you.

The best you can do is go, be yourself and see what happens. When the chemistry is right, things click - and swinging is a hell of a lot of fun. When they don't click - there is still free pool and pizza at 10:00.

Spoomonkey

12-28-2006, 06:32 PM	#10 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,739 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? Swing Lifestyle Name:Spoomonkey	Re: Too Beautiful to Swing I actually have to type three separate answers. So, here they are in no particular order: 1. Prettier than I think... I have always said that I just don't like women who think they are prettier than I do. There is just something about those gorgeous, down-to-earth, non-assumptive types that really trip my trigger. There are women who come to our club obviously to be looked at - they change clothes nine times per night, dance alone in front of the mirror and generally have a "here I am!" attitude that just doesn't do a thing for me. Then you have their husbands who stand around with a beer or twelve with this air of "look who I get to fuck tonight" - and I just wonder why they even bothered to come to a club. The funny thing is, the most attractive women I have ever seen in the lifestyle... I've had great chemistry with them! Then again - maybe I am just blinded by their "real-ness" that to me is just so freakin' hot that it makes sparks. 2. Social awkwardness knows no class Now to be fair, some beautiful people are just as nervous and socially awkward as the rest of us and they struggle to meet people for the same reasons we do. They look too good to not be confident - but they probably aren't. You'd be surprised. Still - they have to learn to step out of their comfort zones and say hello - just like the rest of us... 3. The waters part for thee... There have been times where we have felt like we were being stone-walled at our club - and we've asked around. "What's wrong with us?" Well, we've gotten the responses ranging from "nothing" to "you are kind of intimidating" to "you guys are a bit to 'Ken & Barbie'." Ouch... But, yep... We've had that leveled at us a time or two... This always surprises me. I mean - Barbie I can see, but Ken??? More like Barbie and one of those Furby dolls maybe. But the point is, you never know what people think of you. The best you can do is go, be yourself and see what happens. When the chemistry is right, things click - and swinging is a hell of a lot of fun. When they don't click - there is still free pool and pizza at 10:00. Spoomonkey
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