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Originally Posted by daisy girl I went to a party and there were clearly "beautiful people" there. They walked in and the "waters parted." They seemed almost untouchable. People seemed to avoid them and I wondered what was up. |
One thing I got to see on LL were the 'beautiful' couples, I hear so much about but had yet to see in swinging. There was a subset there that wanted to attend all of the 'exclusive' parties, and by exclusive it means someone looked at your picture and decided if you were good looking enough to get in. Now not everyone that went to these parties were assholes, in fact some were quite nice people. Had we not decided to expand the family, odds are we would have tried to 'get into' them as well to see what they were like.
The problem with exclusive parties though is that it does attract a good amount of jerks. Often they seem to be people who have no real desire to swing, but just to look good and hang with other good looking people looking good. Its a wierd dynamic I didn't quite crack, but reminded me of a highschool hallway after lunch hour.
At any rate, sometimes the beautiful people do get avoided because people have been burned in the past and don't want to approach them out of fear of getting burned again. Other times I've seen them get avoided because people just knew they were assholes and not worth talking to.
Also lets face it, there is a sort of 'royalty' in swinging. If a couple is very attractive, they basically do have their pick of playmates. We can blather on about inner beauty all we want, but first impressions are about lust, not personality. Much like the big boss walking into a company party, there can be a sort of deferance, where people get out of their way and heads turn. This too is human nature, there is dominance in everything we do, even when we don't think about it, you instinctively know 'your place'.