[sereneiders]

I agree with WesternSwing here.

Moreover, here the fact that men are from Mars and women from Venus have a lot to do.

In Mars there are untold but well known rules, and M. broke them. In Mars, when someone steps over your toe the way M. did, you have to AT LEAST acknowledge, because if you don't, you're opening the door for every Martian to step over your toes.

And you cannot ask J. to stop being Martian, even if he wan't to do so, he wont be able to live up to Venusian's rules. Back to the Earth, it's an unavoidable cultural thing, by asking him to avoid this confrontation would be much like ask him to deprive himself from his manhood.

Even inviting others to give you their take about this, could be seen as an invitation for others to keep breaking Martian rules.

And, as pointed out before, this is another razon to avoid swinging with friends or with people you previously knew from the vanilla environment.