I agree it is probably a part of you basic makeup, but the feelings should be fleeting since we are all rational human beings with logical minds. If he is getting action and she is not, it is quite obvious there is an imbalance. If he gets these "biologically driven" feelings to not allow any man to get near his wife, the thoughts SHOULD be fleeting, last a few seconds, then his rational human mind should take over, recognize the imbalance, and logically allow his wife to swing. We aren't animals. Don't allow for the behavior shy femme. Discuss how it is unfair for you and unequal and unhealthy for your relationship.
