[ohash01]

We've been problem-free for our first year of swinging...until this weekend. We went home for Christmas, our families only live about half an hour apart, so we got to see both. Sunday night, we're with J.'s family and some friends call saying "Let's go out!" So...out we go!

Now...we have swung with one of J.'s male friends in the past. For the sake of conversation we'll call him M. I went home early because I had over-eaten and felt like a bloated piggy...drinking was the LAST thing I wanted to do. J. gets home a while later and is practically SHOUTING:
"M. told EVERYONE that he fucked you!!"
I calmly look at him and go "But he didn't."
And J. goes "Aren't you upset?"
Me: "Nah...I'm not that surprised...I knew him keeping his yap shut for much longer than a year was too much to ask."
J.: "I can't believe he did that to you!"
Me: "He didn't DO anything. I'm sure it came out one night when he was drunk and no one believes him."
J.: "Well...no one believes him...they said you're too innocent for that kind of thing."
Me: "So why are you freaking out?"
J: "What if they look at you differently now?"
Me: "I don't care...is that going to make you love me less if your friends think I'm naughty?"
J: "Of course not...I just can't believe it...I'm gonna call him..."

And then we spend a few minutes fussing over the phone. I take it away and tell him that he is not calling ANYONE until he calms down. M. made a mistake...I'm sure he didn't do it maliciously or with bad-intentions. It just came out. Today, J. is still worked up and keeps pacing around going "I should call M. I have to call him. I need to tell him how uncool that was."

*sigh* My man is all worked up. What should I do with him? And what should he do about M.?