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Originally Posted by shy_femme

My husband and I have played with a female friend, had a great time. I'd really like to have a MFM, or even a MFMF, but he is not comfortable with that. Of course he's loving the FMF action, but I'd like to have some 'attention' as well! I have brought up the idea of another couple, but he just doesn't know how that would work.

Doesn't know how it would work? I think it sounds more like he doesn't feel comfortable with you and another man.

My idea, was that perhaps another couple might be willing to 'trade off', until he decides if he is ok with another couple. I suggested that if 'she' had a threesome with us, then 'I' could go and share a threesome with that couple. I thought perhaps that way he'd be more familiar with all of us together, and that way maybe at some point he'd be comfortable enough to try a couples evening.

Julie we need a 'red flag' emoticon

Now if what is bothering your husband what bothers 99.9% of all new husbands in swinging, its you being with another man. For most new couples, doing things at the same time in a different room is bad enough on the imagination. I can't see you being gone while he sits at home and paces a good thing. Not to be harsh but this is most likely the worst thing you could do.

Also even as a 'seasoned' swinger, I'd not be comfortable with my wife doing this, not only on the sexual level, but also on the safety level. I happen to love my wife and as such I'd be very reluctant to let her go off with what are basically strangers into their home under such circumstances.

I don't even know how to begin to introduce the MFM scenario to him.

I've told him that I'd like to, but he doesn't like it, so I don't say much about it. Our female friend has mentioned having a MFMF, but he's just 'selfish' I guess...

Not selfish, he is typically male. FMF isn't a threat to him on any level, MFM is a threat on a great many levels.

I've even said that there'll be no more FMF until I get some MFM action! But he knows I'd play, if the situation arises.

Joking is good, but where jealousy is involved don't play with fire. Don't try to coerce him into doing something he really doesn't want to. We have all seen it end in tears here too often.

I've talked to another couple; and since we've never gone any further than the FMF, I wouldn't even know how the 'festivities' just happen? I thought perhaps if the guys are outside doing the beer-and-bbq thing, and us women are inside having a nice pitcher of margaritas, lounging on the sofa and watching porn ( ), we could get the idea across by "letting them" catch us nuzzling and making out a bit?

Don't over think it, just do it. Things often start slow because everyone knows why they are there but are too reluctant to make the first move. Someone has to get naked first, might as well be you.