Hi, I have some questions, and am not sure about how some things are supposed to work...we're new!
My husband and I have played with a female friend, had a great time. I'd really like to have a MFM, or even a MFMF, but he is not comfortable with that. Of course he's loving the FMF action, but I'd like to have some 'attention' as well! I have brought up the idea of another couple, but he just doesn't know how that would work.
My idea, was that perhaps another couple might be willing to 'trade off', until he decides if he is ok with another couple. I suggested that if 'she' had a threesome with us, then 'I' could go and share a threesome with that couple. I thought perhaps that way he'd be more familiar with all of us together, and that way maybe at some point he'd be comfortable enough to try a couples evening.
Has anyone done that, as a way to work up to a MFMF? Or is that 'not done' and against some rule of etiquette? We are new at this.
I don't even know how to begin to introduce the MFM scenario to him.
I've told him that I'd like to, but he doesn't like it, so I don't say much about it. Our female friend has mentioned having a MFMF, but he's just 'selfish' I guess...
I've even said that there'll be no more FMF until I get some MFM action!
But he knows I'd play, if the situation arises.
I've talked to another couple; and since we've never gone any further than the FMF, I wouldn't even know how the 'festivities' just happen? I thought perhaps if the guys are outside doing the beer-and-bbq thing, and us women are inside having a nice pitcher of margaritas, lounging on the sofa and watching porn (
), we could get the idea across by "letting them" catch us nuzzling and making out a bit?
I think I need a Husband-Swapping For Dummies book.
Any thoughts on how to "let things happen"?