 Re: In too Deep
Well, as I see this, they key here is "this is our first coulple". There are many, many other couples you'd be able to hang and have sex whith, whithout all of this drama.
You could even turn this couple into vanilla friends as to enjoy spending time with them, but the question would be: without the sex, would you? If you wouldn't, then it is just for the sex, and if the sex isn't working for you... you get my point, right?
What I'd advice against is the whole concept of "taking one for the team". What does this mean? That you wife would be owing you one, so if something like what's happening to you today happens to her in the future, she would have to pay back and take one for the team as you did, screwing a guy against her desires as for you to be able to get laid with the chick you like?
Nope, it doesn't work this way, moreover, you're calling for disaster here.
I guess the problem is that you made an investment on this couple, that in order to reach to this point where you're confortable enough as to have fun you two spent time and made an effort you'd hate to waste, and the sight of engaging in such an effort again (giving what you learn it may happen anyday) is a pain in the ass. If I am guessing right here, then, even if you don't have sex, you already got a reward: you learn about people, you learn that things doesn't necesarily fit our wishes and fantasies. You may have now an early alarm to warn you about this sort of things in the future.
My advice is: do not increase the loss, just move on.
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