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Originally Posted by iapr Then while your wife is sitting there beside you the counselor will bash you up one side and down the other on how destructive adultry is to marriage and how you need to recous your energies into intimacy and monogomy. That will really change your wife's mind. |
I've talked to a marriage counselor before and they never bashed me. In fact, many of the things he spoke of only strengthened our marriage to the point where it allowed us to be able to swing.
And frankly, if it isn't something his wife wants, then the councelor helping him redirect his energies on monogamy might be a good thing. After all respecting your wife's wishes will go a long way to making her more comfortable.
The councelor may or may not bash the swinging lifestyle, but as long as you take those comments with a grain of salt, and truly listen to the foundation building principles of communication and respect that he'll teach, then I think the "bashing" he gives the lifestyle won't matter.
People seek help when buying cars, houses, managing their finances...but so many people are reluctant to find help for relationships....
Mr. Truelove