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There is no right or wrong here. Why do some people think that because you are not be looking for friendship that you MUST have some type of insecurity issue or are antisocial?.....BS. We are all here for the obvious reasons...to fuck other people plain and simple. Anybody that says otherwise is kidding themselves. You may be here to make friends THEN fuck them but your still here for the sex. You don't need to swing to make friends and you don't have to be friends with the people you swing with. If we develop a friendship before, during or after playing with a couple then great, but it isn't necessary or a goal of ours. The only prerequisite we have is an attraction and a mutual respect, nothing more. What is wrong with wanting the sex only? Not a damn thing. Again, that is why we are here and that is way you are reading this right now.

I find it a little odd when someone posts that they are in the lifestyle to make friends (not necessarily this post). It is as if that is their way of justifying being a swinger in first place. It's kind of like saying you read Playboy for the articles. Sure, I read the articles but without the naked woman I wouldn't be reading it. You can make friends anywhere, your job, a vanilla club, church etc. If you can't make friends at these places then you probably won't make them anywhere else either.

So, to those of you who want the sex only or don't need to be friends with your play partner, relax, there is nothing wrong with you (us).

On the flip side there is nothing wrong with wanting to be friends with your play partners first. But you don't hear anybody saying you must have some kind of issue because of it. Why? Because there is nothing wrong with that either.

There is a trend on this board for some to over analyze or over think issues or questions that are presented here. Sometimes black is just black and white is just white.