[MoonLightKiss]

I, like some of the others, am not looking for friendships and I am willing to play without that type of relationship, but I am not holding it back at arms length either. In order for me to play, I need to feel something. Whether its that warm fuzzy feeling or that HOT ball of fire. It depends on the people I am with. Each couple we have played with or met has made us feel comfortable or uncomfortable based on different things. One couple we met we actually hang out with in vanilla ways when the kids are around, and not so vanilla when the kids aren't. They have become great friends, but we had been playing as well up to that point.

Talk some more with your wife. Explain it to her. It sounds like maybe there is an insecurity there on both of your sides. A small one. Hers for NEEDING a deep friendship, and yours for feeling like it would start a relationship that might run too deep. Perhaps her insistence on a friendship is not the deep relationship you are understanding it to be. Or perhaps it is, and polyamory is more her style. I am sure everything is going to work out wonderfully.