[NakedInSeattle]

We need to at least have something in common with the people we play with. For instance, we love fine dining and the theater and would not be comfy with a couple that was only interested in motorcycles and hot dogs with chili. (Please, no flame from the couples that enjoy their Harley. Notice I said "only.")

We feel that "friendship" takes an investment in time and effort but great, hot sex can happen on the first or second meeting with a couple.

And don't forget the "chemistry" - that immeasurable something that attracts you to another someone or two. That certain spark must be there. That spark is noticeable usually from the time you meet.

Having said all that, we do feel that the best swinging relationship is to have someone that you can be friends with and do thing with outside the play room. But we're just talking about the start here, I think.