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Darkblue · 12-17-2006, 04:58 AM

I have been reading some of the threads on the forum and i have the same sort of problem with my wife !! Friendship!! is it needed? i dont understand what friendship has to do with swinging??? "Sympathy",yes, "Physical attraction", yes, "Lust" yes

I look at it this way i want to still my lust and at the same time bring something different into our sexlife!!!I am not looking for friends or for a realationship with them!! my wife has a different view she wants a friendship with the people we are looking at swinging with!! but to me you cant have both!! there will be no doubt exceptions to the rule but they wont be very many such friendships out there!!

She thinks i am heartless but i look at it this way!! they want to use me and her to satisfy their lust and we want to do the same,(providing we get that far)i am not out there promising any kind future with them nor would i tell them things they want to hear just to get them to swing with us..

We have been married 23 years and my wife is my friend i dont need anyone else as a friend and to be honest i dont want or need another friend!.

My questions are

Do you all really think you need to have to have friendship in order to swing with the other party?? and whatever the answer is please explain if possible why?

I look forward to your replys!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Steve

12-17-2006, 04:58 AM	#1 (permalink)
Darkblue Steve and Susanne Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 229 Location: Germany Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:darkblue	Friendship yes or no! I have been reading some of the threads on the forum and i have the same sort of problem with my wife !! Friendship!! is it needed? i dont understand what friendship has to do with swinging??? "Sympathy",yes, "Physical attraction", yes, "Lust" yes I look at it this way i want to still my lust and at the same time bring something different into our sexlife!!!I am not looking for friends or for a realationship with them!! my wife has a different view she wants a friendship with the people we are looking at swinging with!! but to me you cant have both!! there will be no doubt exceptions to the rule but they wont be very many such friendships out there!! She thinks i am heartless but i look at it this way!! they want to use me and her to satisfy their lust and we want to do the same,(providing we get that far)i am not out there promising any kind future with them nor would i tell them things they want to hear just to get them to swing with us.. We have been married 23 years and my wife is my friend i dont need anyone else as a friend and to be honest i dont want or need another friend!. My questions are Do you all really think you need to have to have friendship in order to swing with the other party?? and whatever the answer is please explain if possible why? I look forward to your replys!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Steve