MrsVan- we very seldom reply to post. However, we had a similar experience to what you described and my wife felt very similar. We finally decided that a lot of variables play into these relationships and we can not control most of them. It sounds like they are rethinking their involvement in the lifestyle not in the relationship with you guys. You just happen to be innocent bystanders. One thing we try to remember is that each relationship is equivalent to four people dating each other. It is much more complicated than two persons dating- it's four times that complicated. I do applaud how you two handled the situation. You sound like a great couple that cares about people. If we lived in Ohio we would love to meet you guys. Buts it's WAY too cold up there!
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