[iapr]

You are doing nothing wrong but I have the gut feeling from the tone of your story that you have a bit of a void that swinging will probably not be able to fill. I know people are going to jump down my throat and tell of all the wonderfull friends that they have found in the lifestyle but the truth remains that for many people swinging is about recreational sex. Nothing wrong with sex and nothing wrong with looking for long term traditional friends but the two really don't mix all that well.

You are doing nothing wrong but I would guess that the real void you are experiencing is for some true friendships and not necessarily sex partners. You may be better served by looking for friendships in traditional venues such as hobbies, interest groups, church groups etc etc. Continue swinging and enjoy it has to offer by all means but don't look to it as a serious gateway to some true friendships.