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I wish I could give you a good answer that would solve your problem, but I am sorry to say that I can't. What you have experienced seems to be pretty standard in the lifestyle in our experience. In 5 years and after meeting literally hundreds of swingers we only have actually become good friends with a few couples. Making friends of swingers seems different in most cases than making vanilla friends. It has also been our experience that when the sexual relationship changes so does the friendship. We have become friends with several couples that we were also playing with that for one reason or other we decided mutually not to play any more. Shortly after that, even though we all agreed we still wished to remain friends, the relationship changed to the point that we didn't really see much of each other any more. With our vanilla friends we can not see them for months and then when we get together it is like no time has passed at all and we interact as best buddies. Whereas, when the same thing happens with folks we have played with it always seems strained when we see each other again. Why that is I have no idea, but we have just come to accept that that is the way it is. I will be interested in seeing what others have experienced though.