The Swingers Board - View Single Post - First time last night, now husband is angry and won't talk

havefuninsun · 12-11-2006, 12:40 PM

The best advice I know to give is to just be honest with your feelings and tell him everything you think/feel. Hopefully, the more you open up, the more he will, too.

I think a lot of posters will agree that if you can't TALK about EVERYTHING with your partner, swinging shouldn't happen. If you're at the point in your relationship that you can talk openly about anything/everything, you're on the right track.

I understand other stresses in the relationship, believe me. Been there, done that. And those stresses can cause a lot of conflict in a relationship. And it sounds like maybe you're having trouble communicating about these other stresses. So the key is to learn to communicate openly about everything. TALK about the money thing; talk about what is scary about having another baby, talk about your fears with his career.

Once you can communicate openly and honestly with your husband about any issue, anything is possible. Until then, focus on what is important in your relationship, and the other will come along too.

Good luck -- you guys have a lot on your plate. Don't sweat the petty things (and don't pet the sweaty things) and it will all come together.

12-11-2006, 12:40 PM	#4 (permalink)
havefuninsun insert witty banter here Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 1,190 Location: Virginia Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:havefuninsun	Re: First Time Last night help? The best advice I know to give is to just be honest with your feelings and tell him everything you think/feel. Hopefully, the more you open up, the more he will, too. I think a lot of posters will agree that if you can't TALK about EVERYTHING with your partner, swinging shouldn't happen. If you're at the point in your relationship that you can talk openly about anything/everything, you're on the right track. I understand other stresses in the relationship, believe me. Been there, done that. And those stresses can cause a lot of conflict in a relationship. And it sounds like maybe you're having trouble communicating about these other stresses. So the key is to learn to communicate openly about everything. TALK about the money thing; talk about what is scary about having another baby, talk about your fears with his career. Once you can communicate openly and honestly with your husband about any issue, anything is possible. Until then, focus on what is important in your relationship, and the other will come along too. Good luck -- you guys have a lot on your plate. Don't sweat the petty things (and don't pet the sweaty things) and it will all come together.