 Re: Liars
I agree with most of the others. RUN don't walk away from this man. While doing so, if you want to tell him why you are no longer willing to be around him, be polite, but firm when telling him why. No reason at all for you to sink to his level. If he is lying to you about being with his wife, then odds are she does not know. Otherwise, he would not have to lie, but could say, "we have an open/whatever marraige. Please feel free to check with her. I do not want you to think I am cheating." Which is the approach HONEST men would use if they were married and stepping out with permission.
As far as telling the wife. I am with the others. First its not your place, karma will catch up to him eventually. There is no need to start the drama yourself and have yourself dragged into it. Second, regardless of your knowledge on his marital status, the wife more than likely won't believe you when you say you didn't know. Simply because hurt and betrayal does not make for rational thinking. Thirdly, when the wife blows up at the husband, (and she will) he will know it came from you. What then could motivate him to keep your involvement discreet? Nothing. Odds are he makes you out to be the one who seduced him, the tramp, or the slut who is a OMG a member of that nasty little swingers club. Those being his potential words. If he knows where you work, even worse for your reputation. Probably not something you want branded about over the water cooler in the break room at your job. Best thing to do is run away and keep your knowledge to yourself.
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