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Originally Posted by Tybee Swing Personally, we don't communicate separately with other people that way. We have one joint email account and IM account for all of our swinging stuff, and we both read it, even if we aren't both there at the same time that it's written. |
Dog and I have different user names here and different personal emails. I wish I knew more about this lifestyle before I started so as to have avoided this. We have just recently opened up a joint email for swinging, leave things the way they are with our current friends as we love and trust them very much. We also have the passwords to each others accounts here so there is no chance of secrecy. I don't open his or he mine until the other has read it, but we always let the other know it is there one or that we have written.
slight hijack but back to the story at hand.
I think, in my newbie kind of way, that she was ready to go that first night at the bar, cold the following visit and on board again the next visit. Ya, it could have been that time of the month. If you are not that familiar with this couple I doubt highly that she would be comfortable saying that. Or perhaps she just wanted a vanilla visit and was uncomfortable saying so. There is a couple in mine and Dogs life that we have come to care about very much. I would love to have both play visits and vanilla visits with them. Not feel that everytime that we are together we have to play. Although if I am going to make the trip, a little play will aways be welcome
If there is one thing I learnt about women, being that I am one I think I have a certain amount of expertise(sp). Is that we are somewhat unpredictable. I am one of the more simpler models but even I have my times where Dog is ready to throw up his hands and say "I give up" :surrender
They sound like a couple you both like very much as friends. Keep close, but not too close. Email, but not daily. Flirt, but be coy. Ya I know breath, but don't breath, right. I tell you women are tricky. Let girlfriends talk like girlfriends talk. Email the husband and be his buddy as well as the wives being girlfriends.
Tell you the honest truth about me. I was scared as hell about this lifestyle. I was not the one night stand kind of girl or the weekend away type either. But I have made friends with some of the swingers I have met. Some really close friends I might add. You know the fear is gone. I know the couple that we are going to play with for my first time is going to be great and patient and understanding and one HELL of a good time. Try being her friend, if she is a little scard or shy, being there for her as a friend maybe the ticket. I know the husband of this couple we know has been a great friend to me. And the wife, well she is second to no one!!
If you want that one night party and get it on type of night, Find another couple. This couple could be the kind you turn to for a relationship. An on going, cry on my shoulder when you need it, sit down and have a beer while watching hockey, and lets play mattress wrestling type of couple.
Good luck my friend,
Your friend,
Prettylady
WOW! Did I just make sence all the way through a whole post?
That's not right, I'm the one who rambles and makes no sence.
I need to find a thread and get back to being myself before I become a grown up
