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Originally Posted by ts4 I have questions for those of you that have went through this in the early stages of getting involved with a couple. First off we exchanged email addresses with them perticularly with the female half of all of this. I've had conversations back and forth with her all this week but how do you not go overboard? I mean i can't stop thinking about this woman yet i don't want to look like a complete sycho. I want to talk to her constantly but find myself the one initiating the emails. There's always a response and it has been good but do i keep being the one to send the first email or should i back off and find out if she really is deeply interested?
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It sounds like they have separate emails and you're communicating only with the female half. Sounds like you're writing her every day, or nearly. You said, "I want to talk to her
constantly". Danger, danger, Will Robinson. You're too much into this.
Personally, we don't communicate separately with other people that way. We have one joint email account and IM account for all of our swinging stuff, and we both read it, even if we aren't both there at the same time that it's written. Neither of us would be writing every day or wanting to talk "constantly" to one of our playmates, or potential playmates. If we did, it would be seen as a danger sign.
Swinging is
just casual sex with playmates. Swinging is just to enhance your sex life as a couple and add a little spark to your own
real relationship. Maybe if you keep telling yourself these things, you can keep yourself in line and not go so overboard on this woman. My advice is to limit the emails to just occasional "making plans" kinds of things. If you and your wife don't already use one joint account for all your swinging stuff, I highly recommend it. You'll keep yourself more in check that way, I think.