[DBL D]

I think you should back off a bit. You've gotten all worked up, then you missed the "window". Find another couple to play with and let this one slide till they bring up something concrete.

I know if I was thinking about another lady all the time, it would not make things better between me and my lady.

Sounds like you still haven't asked whether she has, or they have, played around before. I'd continue to see them but just let her do the moving...and you be ready when it happens.

Male D