[Ashley]

I had my first swinging experience this past weekend. It was not a positive experience. My partner and I met this couple and he was attracted to the woman but I was not attracted to the man. I wanted to please my partner so I went along with it anyway and now I am thinking that was not the thing to do. I imagine this sort of thing happens all the time so please advise me. We were at a club which might have made it easier for me to say something like "I'd prefer to just watch". Would that have been proper etiquette? I'm sure I'll encounter this situation again as he is attracted to a much wider range of women than I am to men so I want to be prepared when it does happen. I know one of the tenets of swinging is you should never do something you don't really want to do.