 Re: Dont Want to Stop Wanting To
I know stopping can be heart breaking, your desire is so strong and her fighting you seems so unfair. I have been there in our beginnings in the BDSM lifestyle, i wanted it so bad it hurt, and i really did go crazy for a while, It caused so many problems for a while, then eventually he understood the reason i wanted it so bad. Eventually it came down to what he wanted. We took it very slow and let him make the first move. Sometimes letting the other take the lead. bring it up from time to time, Don't push it, but keep it on the back burner and let it simmer. She may come back to it when she sees how important it is to you. And gets over her own feelings, i can understand her feelings as well, when we firtst got into this it was tramatizing to me as well. but eventually it became less of a moral thing and more of a fun thing, and it did really improve our sexlife, and our marriage, Communication became easier as we were working for something for the 2 of us, not the kids or work etc. Just us
I hope that one day she will see that it isn't all bad, and it can be a good thing. Till then relaxe and get to know each other again.
Chantal
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