 Re: Dont Want to Stop Wanting To
Interesting thread. Interesting situation.
Let me get this straight:
- Husband would like to see a plethora of naked bodies and indulge in various acts of sexuality with others, and have some good clean fun before he's too old. He'd like to touch/see/taste other women - hopefully at the same time - while presumably his wife would do the same.
- Wife's position is, "over my dead body. You will see/touch/taste ONE naked body. EVER."
That's the gist of the story, right?
Where I come from, we have a word for that...
We call it MARRIAGE!
(Or, I guess a vanilla marriage, if you will)
Desire does us all in, doesn't it?
Great opening page from my favorite book:
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The Wrong Question
Lust brings out the liar in everyone. Every erection has Pinocchio written up and down its length—yes, everybody wants to be REAL, a real boy, an honest woman, unafraid and upright—but then desire, the ultimate honesty, does us in. Desire doesn’t give a whit about shame. Our secrets, our exaggerations and distractions, it’s all just a lot of twisting in the wind as far as sex is concerned—what we want WILL come out.
When we talk about sex to each other, one-on-one, we open a well-worn box of lovers’ lies – fake orgasms, promises of fidelity, boastful exploits. But on a social stage, lying about sex grows to such a grandiose level that instead of just answering with fibs and false hoods, our collective breath doesn’t even pose an honest question.
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I guess this boils down to one of my five courses of action:
1 - Cheat
2 - Get divorced
3 - Have an open marriage
4 - Grin and bear it. Welcome to monogamy.
5 - Get back into the lifestyle.
3 and 5 work for me.
1 and 2 would be a shame.
4 is not really that fair, in our opinion.
To all those vanilla spouses who think #4 is THE option... Well that explains why #1 and #2 are so prevelant in society, I guess.
Think of your top options of these five, and then ask your wife.
Good luck!
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