 Re: Concern
While I want to agree with what most people have posted before I do feel that it is important for each person to feel comfortable. If he doesn't feel comfortable with it you certainly shouldn't "guilt" him into it by saying that it's only fair because I did it for you. That sort of guilt trip will only hurt your relationship with him.
It's a difficult situation. I think this can only be resolved by you two talking it out thoroughly.
I'll be honest, the thought of a MFM just doesn't do anything for me yet. If my wife would propose the idea of it to me I would consider it, but I just don't know if I would want to have that. Selfish? Might be, but if I do it against my own will, I doubt we would be having a very good time.
We like full swap. I am unsure about wanting a FMF because I like the idea of the other couple being in a secure relationship and not having to worry so much about a single female that is looking for more than just fun.
Have you asked him why he doesn't want any play for you with the men? Does he have some insecurities about being around other men in a sexual setting? Does he have worries that you might fall for one of them? Is he not wanting you to be roughed up?
You need to ask him these questions. If you get answers to that maybe we can help him deal with them, but until then, you must abide by his wishes not to play with men. Just as if you felt uncomfortable with the FMF that you could "veto" play in that regard.
Respecting eachother, trust, and communication are key parts of swinging. I encourage you to talk to him about it.
Mr. Truelove
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