[JustFun]

Well we've definately already stopped. If I even mention this to her at all it starts a fight. The last time I brought it up I simply shared a fantasy idea with her and she got upset and asked me "We're not going to go through this again are we?". I really do think it was this couple that scared her away, but she doesnt use them as a reason against it. To her it's more like it's just not proper to do this. To the point that anyone who chooses to do it is a nutcase, in her opinion. She had allowed herself to enjoy it for a little while and then clammed up right after the other guy was being a total jerk.

The problem I have is everyone here seems to think it's just easy to give this up if the other person isnt interested. I don't understand how this is any different from being gay. If this is your sexual preference then so be it, good for you. Can you expect someone else to be like you if they're not? No, of course not. But why is it OK for someone else to expect you to not be this way and that be OK? Honestly, expecting a person to not be interested in swinging when they are is no different then a social conservative expecting gay people not to be gay, in my opinion. I have the right to feel this way and I dont want to stop. I know I can't expect my wife to join me but at the same time I feel like she doesn't love me the same way I love her because she can't accept me for who I am.