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Originally Posted by titanicmale What do you think and what do the following really mean:
1. "It's not that I don't love you."
2. "I love you, but I'm not sure I'm in love with you."
3. "He and I have a connection."
4. She doesn't want to give up his "friendship". |
I hate to say it but it sounds to me like your wife is searching for a replacement for you,if it happened once i'd say her emotions were just running wild but this is happening again & this time with a couple.
You should take a closer look at the questions you asked here & also look at the things she has said to you about this other man,each of the things she said to you about this man are the kiss of death to a relationship. These type problems are not easily corrected & swinging is the worst possible thing either of you could do,if your marrige is in trouble swinging will not save it but it will cause drama as you can see.
Asking her to stop seeing or talking with this man will only cause her to have hard feelings against you & she wont stop until she see's fit,also from reading about how you described her actions in the first MFM & now in this deal telling her to stop all contact will only lead her to go underground & start sneaking around, if i were you i'd take a good look at where my relationship is going with her & also look at where it's been.
Im not of the belief that marrige counseling is worth a grain of salt ,she knows how you feel about all of this & makes excuses for her actions ,your wife needs to grow up & start acting like an adult instead of a schoolgirl who craves the attention & excitement of starting a new relationship,if i were in your place i'd tell her exactly how she made me feel by doing this stuff & how her unwillingness to stop continues to make me feel horrible then if she continues with all of this then you know where you stand with her.