 Re: what does it mean?
I hate to say it, but it sounds like your wife already has one foot out the door and she is just afraid to step completely over the threshold. You two need to get some professional counseling and figure out where you want this relationship to go.
Your marriage was not on solid ground when you started swinging and that just opened-up the door for others to walk through and fulfill needs not being met within the marriage.
Plus, the other guy is new and exciting. She is probably not even thinking straight because the hormones are drowning out all other reason. This other guy is fantasy and seems different from the life she has. In reality it would be the same if not worse if she left. In short she is confusing lust with love.
Like I said, go to professional couseling and start working on your relationship.
And yes, if she is serious about fixing your relationship I feel she has to completely cut-off contact with this other guy. You two should also get completely out of the lifestyle.
Mr. WS
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