 Re: what does it mean?
I agree, talk to him it is your marriage, but also his, not to say he is ready to leave, but she could make thier lives very difficult. I would want to know what is going on between Mr. T, and a playmate, and visa versa. All our convo's are logged so that we can each read what the other is up to. So on that note, there is ways to find out what is going on.
As for your relationship, i think a concellour would be a good idea, something is going wrong, and swinging is not going to help it. You have been together for 10 yrs, and now this is the second playmate she attaches herself to, there is definately something very wrong. I know from our own experience, we had a similar situation in the beginning 10yrs ago, but that was quickly rectofied by cutting contact immediately.
So from my point of view, you cut contact immediately, by contacting them, i know this will be difficult from an ego point of view, no one wants to admit that there is an issue in thier marriage. And then talk to your wife, and see if she would go to a councellor to fit what is wrong.
Best of luck and i hope all works out for you.
Chantal
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