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menher1559 · 11-27-2006, 08:50 PM

I've been reading on this post for several days now and as usual, when something peaks my interest, I simply cannot keep my mouth shut.....

One of the post i read from somebody...(i've been so enthralled in the content, I can't remember who posted it) said something to the effect of the be sure you can love the person starring back at you in the mirror.

This above and beyond all is the secret key to this relationship. In order to love others, you must love yourself. In order to care for others, you must care for yourself. If you honestly feel in your heart you can make this relationship work under it's current condition, then by all means put yourself into it.

If you honestly believe in your heart that there is no way it can work and you will constantly have these fears, then it's time to change it. You are in control, not your husband. You have the same opportunities as he.

You can choose to have sexual relations outside the confines of your marriage; you can choose to end your marriage; you can choose to continue the life you are living. ALL THOSE DECISIONS ARE YOURS, and the folks here on this board have offered thier heartfelt advice.

The fortunate thing from all of this is that YOU ARE IN CONTROL AND YOU CAN DECIDE WHAT IS THE BEST AVENUE FOR YOU TO TAKE.

Best wishes to you and your husband and family.

"All's fair in love, war and kinky sex"

11-27-2006, 08:50 PM	#27 (permalink)
menher1559 Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 43 Location: kentucky Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:menher1559	Re: So confused!!! (long post) I've been reading on this post for several days now and as usual, when something peaks my interest, I simply cannot keep my mouth shut..... One of the post i read from somebody...(i've been so enthralled in the content, I can't remember who posted it) said something to the effect of the be sure you can love the person starring back at you in the mirror. This above and beyond all is the secret key to this relationship. In order to love others, you must love yourself. In order to care for others, you must care for yourself. If you honestly feel in your heart you can make this relationship work under it's current condition, then by all means put yourself into it. If you honestly believe in your heart that there is no way it can work and you will constantly have these fears, then it's time to change it. You are in control, not your husband. You have the same opportunities as he. You can choose to have sexual relations outside the confines of your marriage; you can choose to end your marriage; you can choose to continue the life you are living. ALL THOSE DECISIONS ARE YOURS, and the folks here on this board have offered thier heartfelt advice. The fortunate thing from all of this is that YOU ARE IN CONTROL AND YOU CAN DECIDE WHAT IS THE BEST AVENUE FOR YOU TO TAKE. Best wishes to you and your husband and family. "All's fair in love, war and kinky sex"