The Swingers Board - View Single Post - What questions do you ask potential partners about their sexual history?

MagicEnigma · 02-16-2003, 03:44 PM

I think when we start talking about ¡°wild girls¡± we run the risk of trying to label people across the board.

I think that simply having the lifestyle I do makes certain precautions obvious and at the same time not enough. In high school, I insisted on a condom every single time I had intercourse of any kind. But the honest truth is that I knew even then that it wasn't a 100 percent given that they would work. However using one reduced the risk to a point where I put faith into the numbers. After getting to college I admit I got lax about condoms because I started on the pill almost as soon as I could. The STD issue wasn't something most of my friends talked about. When I got involved with my last relationship, I got back on the condom bandwagon, this time because of concern about STDs. Since getting into the lifestyle, I've insisted on it on the few times I've been with somebody outside of our group, or the club trips I've made. But even then, inside of our group, there are times I don't insist if the guy doesn't bring it up. Mostly because I know these people. In all cases, I've had condoms break during parties, I've had leakage, and I've even had them come off inside me. I honestly think if there was or is an STD in our group, not much is really going to keep it from spreading at some point. The basic nature of my sex life leaves me having to accept some risk.

02-16-2003, 03:44 PM	#20 (permalink)
MagicEnigma Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 149 Location: Great Lakes	I think when we start talking about ¡°wild girls¡± we run the risk of trying to label people across the board. I think that simply having the lifestyle I do makes certain precautions obvious and at the same time not enough. In high school, I insisted on a condom every single time I had intercourse of any kind. But the honest truth is that I knew even then that it wasn't a 100 percent given that they would work. However using one reduced the risk to a point where I put faith into the numbers. After getting to college I admit I got lax about condoms because I started on the pill almost as soon as I could. The STD issue wasn't something most of my friends talked about. When I got involved with my last relationship, I got back on the condom bandwagon, this time because of concern about STDs. Since getting into the lifestyle, I've insisted on it on the few times I've been with somebody outside of our group, or the club trips I've made. But even then, inside of our group, there are times I don't insist if the guy doesn't bring it up. Mostly because I know these people. In all cases, I've had condoms break during parties, I've had leakage, and I've even had them come off inside me. I honestly think if there was or is an STD in our group, not much is really going to keep it from spreading at some point. The basic nature of my sex life leaves me having to accept some risk.