[deanncat]

Yes it sounds like a ultimatum,
my husband and I have been talking about swinging the past 3months and thats the key word, talking together about it, very open and lots of conversations about it, all of it is together even the swingers board is a together thing, no ultimatums, and if one of us feels like we don't want to fallow through, i think that would be it, the swinging conversation would stop, I think it take together time and that is what will make the swinging fun and exciting and your relationship closer.