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PrairieFire · 11-21-2006, 10:47 AM

I think he was very honest to tell you how he feels. Not everyone is set up to have sex with only one person in their lifetime. He loves you but wants to have sex with others.

You are a "good" girl that doesn't want to play but understands that he might.

I have an open relationship so I have an understanding of how you can have sex with others without being present and the only way it works for us is for complete honesty about any hookups.

He needs to:
1. Tell you when he is going to hook up.
2. Tell you about the encounter (it may make you jealous at first, but if you understand it as a fun life story it may increase your enjoyment.)
3. Calls you after it happened so you don't have to worry about where he is.
4. Makes sure he dates you also throughout to keep your communication lines open.
5. play safe.

It can work but you need to understand your jealousy and insecurities first. Coming home to you as a self confident life partner will keep your relationship going. If you are hounded by your own issues it will break up the marriage.

Good luck!

11-21-2006, 10:47 AM	#17 (permalink)
PrairieFire Active Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 21 Location: Maricopa, AZ Status: Open Couple	Re: So confused!!! (long post) I think he was very honest to tell you how he feels. Not everyone is set up to have sex with only one person in their lifetime. He loves you but wants to have sex with others. You are a "good" girl that doesn't want to play but understands that he might. I have an open relationship so I have an understanding of how you can have sex with others without being present and the only way it works for us is for complete honesty about any hookups. He needs to: 1. Tell you when he is going to hook up. 2. Tell you about the encounter (it may make you jealous at first, but if you understand it as a fun life story it may increase your enjoyment.) 3. Calls you after it happened so you don't have to worry about where he is. 4. Makes sure he dates you also throughout to keep your communication lines open. 5. play safe. It can work but you need to understand your jealousy and insecurities first. Coming home to you as a self confident life partner will keep your relationship going. If you are hounded by your own issues it will break up the marriage. Good luck!