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Originally Posted by mnsnen So, due to the responses here I was wondering.......
If your spouse said they didn't want to live this "lifestyle" anymore, how would you feel? Would you really be okay, or would it end up causing problems. |
Nope, no problems, we would stop immediately. We do this together, with full understanding that if either of us is uncomfortable, it stops, no questions asked. Well, just because we communicate everything, we would talk about it.
The thing about being in this lifestyle is that it is a magnifier. If the marriage is good it will make it better. If the marriage has problems, it will make it worse. You can't get into this for just one of you, it will eventually destroy you. The marriage has to be sound and solid, before you start. The 3 most important aspects of a good marriage is respect, trust and communication, if any one of those 3 are not present, you may as well walk away, or be content to be miserable for the rest of your life. For me, life is to short to be miserable.
I really feel bad for you in this situation, ultimatums are a disaster waiting to happen. It's like putting your broken heart and feelings into a box and nailing the lid down tight (if I just ignore them they will go away), eventually the nails rust and the lid pops open. In the meantime, they have been festering in there and reproduced and grown, by the time the lid pops, the amount of anger will eat you alive. Been there done that, I am speaking from my own experience, from a previous marriage.
I hope it works out for you, or that you two work it out.
Blessings
Mrs. PL