The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Ultimatum: Let me sleep with another woman or I'm leaving

Cpl2share · 11-21-2006, 06:15 AM

We have discussed your situation at some length and here is our take on it:
First substitute physical abuse for cheating. Yes, he hits me, but he really loves me. He hits me but he really loves the kids. He hits me but he is such a good person otherwise. We are hearing a lot of excuses for his behavior. Period. No matter how you cut it, he is doing something that hurts you and has no intention of quiting it. You are enabling him to continue. That is not love.
My wife and I did engage in some swinging for about two years, but have not done so in the past year. The couple that we were "with" and us grew apart. We have not found a couple since then that both of us are interested in at the same time. Wed are okay with this. Our sex drives are extreme opposites. I want it every day, she would be satisfied with twice a month. During our 16 years together we have never cheated on each other. Our first son did some serious damage to her plumbing. It was extremely painful for her to have sex afterwards. We did not have sex for over 9 months after he was born. I did not cheat. We have evolved into an animal (yep, I am a athiest) which has opposable thumbs. Thsi makes masterbation very easy for me. When I have an "urge" to get laid and my wife does not want to, I jerk off. She is okay with this. Does not consider it cheating. Soemtimes we discuss who we would like to have sex with.
If he loves you he will find a way to stop what he is doing. If you love yourself, you will not put up with what he is doing, and you will not give in to his ultimatum.

11-21-2006, 06:15 AM	#13 (permalink)
Cpl2share Is it too cold for beer? Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 344 Location: Way up north. Status: Couple	Re: So confused!!! (long post) We have discussed your situation at some length and here is our take on it: First substitute physical abuse for cheating. Yes, he hits me, but he really loves me. He hits me but he really loves the kids. He hits me but he is such a good person otherwise. We are hearing a lot of excuses for his behavior. Period. No matter how you cut it, he is doing something that hurts you and has no intention of quiting it. You are enabling him to continue. That is not love. My wife and I did engage in some swinging for about two years, but have not done so in the past year. The couple that we were "with" and us grew apart. We have not found a couple since then that both of us are interested in at the same time. Wed are okay with this. Our sex drives are extreme opposites. I want it every day, she would be satisfied with twice a month. During our 16 years together we have never cheated on each other. Our first son did some serious damage to her plumbing. It was extremely painful for her to have sex afterwards. We did not have sex for over 9 months after he was born. I did not cheat. We have evolved into an animal (yep, I am a athiest) which has opposable thumbs. Thsi makes masterbation very easy for me. When I have an "urge" to get laid and my wife does not want to, I jerk off. She is okay with this. Does not consider it cheating. Soemtimes we discuss who we would like to have sex with. If he loves you he will find a way to stop what he is doing. If you love yourself, you will not put up with what he is doing, and you will not give in to his ultimatum.