 Re: So confused!!! (long post)
...most men cheat and they do it b/c the urge is to strong. So why not just accept it...
This is what has me concerned. And I respectfully disagree. Most men do not cheat because the urge is so strong. They cheat because they are incapable of controlling their urges. Or rather I should say they think they are. What it really is is a very simple case of not wanting to. And that goes for women too, not just men. (Don't want anyone to think I am bashing men only.) Why not accept it? Better question is why would you? You don't think you deserve better or something. And he is probably a great husband. But its still selfish. Yes, even good people can screw up and be selfish.
As for would either of us be okay if one wanted to leave? Absolutely. We are in this together. And we will leave it together if one of us chooses to without ever blinking. This is not a necessity in our life like water or food. Its a desire, a want. We do not need swinging in our lives to be happy. We swing because we are happy to do so at this time. Tommorrow my husband could wake up and say "Honey about swinging, I don't think I want to do it anymore." And I would be just as happy with him as I was the day before when we did swing.
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