 Re: So confused!!! (long post)
Edison here--The choice of ending the marriage or to allow cheating is not a choice. He gets his goal, other women, either way. 'Temptation too strong' oh puhleeeeeze. I'm sorry, I hate weak willed men who enter a monogamous relationship and then complain when they can't cope and I say this as a man. Instead of investing his life in the pursuit of other women, how about into his family, work and growth. I say this with all sincerity, the guy is a spoiled little brat who needs to grow up. Remember, you never lied about who you were or what your life was about, he did and you're left to cope with it. His high sex drive never destroyed a relationship, it dissolved the ones he built on fiction. I just laugh as to how he paints himself as a victim.
When I first met Susan and asked her out she told me exactly what she was about sexually. What a shame he was such a coward and did not do the same for you. Sorry, I don't buy into his hyperbole.
Perhaps counselling, but if he's insisting you change to accomodate what he lied to you about, then it's your choice to be a 'doormat'.
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