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Originally Posted by Additude Your not over reacting.
Your wife blew up as a measure to put you on the defensive and make you feel guilty that the problem lies with you.
If you feel guilty you are more likely to do what she wants.
It's a classic and common game. Guilt is a very powerful tool.
If your wife doesn't want to recognize the situation, acknowledge your concerns and on top of that she play's the guilt trip on you, then I suggest you focus your concerns on her intentions.
She is being very selfish and has complete disregard for you. She can't be wanting to play as a "couple" even if your not there. |
This is to "Attitude".......this is the wife you're referring to in the above quote. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but perhaps you should have been there to hear everything that was said before you say I was being selfish. First of all, my husband had joined several swinger's sites months before I even knew about it. He had had several ongoing conversations with couples that I was not aware of, he'd sent emails and received emails from couples before I even knew he was doing this.......so who was being "left out" then? I did not feel that I was being "singled" out as a single female for a FMF with the other couple, nor did I feel that her emailing me was out of place.......especially since my husband had been emailing her privately from his account before I knew he even had an account. As to whether either of us over reacted......there was a lot more said and done that what appeared in the post.
We have since been to a swinger party and had a fantastic time. We also have met a nice couple and had our first swinger encounter and it was GREAT. We've met with the couple since then for dinner and a show and intend to have another play session with them next weekend.