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Originally Posted by intuition897
This doesn't necessarily have to be the end of swinging or anything. This is one of those inevitible screw-ups that we all make when we are learning about "schoolyard politics." You'll make a mistake just as enormous, most likely, simply because you won't have realized just how hurtful it was. So it makes sense to be understanding towards your wife; she may not realize just how damaging a thing it was that she has done to you and the level of trust you have in her. "Having a backbone" is one thing, but without flexibility, you're just going to get hurt.
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intuition897 makes a good point and I'd like to add something more to this thread.
I think it is also important that someone - and I'll be the one - say that other women do enjoy seeing two men have sex. I happen to be one of those women.
It's still just a swing fantasy that I hope to experience one day.
I've talked with Mr LM about this, and he hopes I can witness this, but we both know he won't be part of my fantasy. He has absolutely no interest in male bisexual play, and I've never envisioned him playing with men. Him being with a man wouldn't do it for me.
And I wouldn't even want him in the playroom while two men were going at it because I know he wouldn't want to see two guys playing, and if he'd be uncomfortable I'd be uncomfortable and I wouldn't enjoy the moment.
LM