The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Male went down on me. Wife liked it, I'm turned off.

ohash01 · 11-13-2006, 05:14 PM

Tricky, tricky, sneaky, sneaky. It's odd...isn't it? You liked it when you had no idea...but then when you found out what was really going on it's like *take a step back* "WOAH!!..." Wifey PROBABLY should have asked you first if that would be something you'd be interested in doing. But hindsight is 20/20...so with that said...

Ok - so you KNOW you do want to "do/be done" by another man. And you KNOW you don't want to reciprocate. But in my humble opinion - if it feels good - run with it. Ok - so it's new and different. The first time a guy went down on me (and I'm a WOMAN!) I flipped out and cried a little. Then I realized "ok...this kinda feels nice...it's new and scary and a little nauseating...but wow it feels nice...". That was YEARS ago. I have since become accustomed to feeling good sexually and it no longer scares the crap out of me.

If this is something that you just could absolutely NOT enjoy for its own sake...then you definately shouldn't do it to make your wife happier. Just tell her it's no good for you. She can have the rest of her life to imagine what it looked like...she's seen it once.

11-13-2006, 05:14 PM	#2 (permalink)
ohash01 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 535 Location: Ohio Status: Single Female	Re: Puzzled Tricky, tricky, sneaky, sneaky. It's odd...isn't it? You liked it when you had no idea...but then when you found out what was really going on it's like take a step back "WOAH!!..." Wifey PROBABLY should have asked you first if that would be something you'd be interested in doing. But hindsight is 20/20...so with that said... Ok - so you KNOW you do want to "do/be done" by another man. And you KNOW you don't want to reciprocate. But in my humble opinion - if it feels good - run with it. Ok - so it's new and different. The first time a guy went down on me (and I'm a WOMAN!) I flipped out and cried a little. Then I realized "ok...this kinda feels nice...it's new and scary and a little nauseating...but wow it feels nice...". That was YEARS ago. I have since become accustomed to feeling good sexually and it no longer scares the crap out of me. If this is something that you just could absolutely NOT enjoy for its own sake...then you definately shouldn't do it to make your wife happier. Just tell her it's no good for you. She can have the rest of her life to imagine what it looked like...she's seen it once.