You and your wife's first experience isn't what I would consider the typical MFM, because you were with another couple and you chose to sit out.
Usually, when couples mention MFM, it involves bringing in a single male to join you and your wife. In the 'single male' MFM scenario, I wouldn't say it is an easier way necassarily, mainly because it can be challenging to find a suitable single male. If you do find one it can be a great first experience. A couple usually plays together and has the single male join in to give the wife the pleasure of two men at one time, or for the husband may sit out and watch them part of the time.
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Originally Posted by elfman36 When a wife is a trebidatious or apprehensive about experiencing the lifestyle, is it easier to begin with a MMF to ease her into things? |
There must be some discomfort your wife has in having you play with another woman, since you were with a couple and you didn't play with the other woman. It would help to understand how you decided on this. My advice could be off because I'm making this presumption.
Your wife isn't going to know how she will react to seeing you play with another woman until you give it a try. She could put that off indefinately. She may never get comfy with the idea. What you have to ask yourself is, would you be okay with that? If you want to play with other woman, then I think you should let your wife know this and find out why she is apprehensive.
If she continues to play with men and women while you sit by and watch, she may not want to move past her present comfort zone.
I think you both need to talk about what you each want from swinging, and if your goals are the same. If your goals are never to merge, then you may find that one of you feels shortchanged and uninterested in pursuing swinging.
LM