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Originally Posted by crazycatz I think it's really unfair to say that they are lacking in their marriage because swinging didn't work for them!! Some people enjoy it and others don't. C'est la vie. Neither is right or wrong.
I think the tone of his post is arising from him being upset and he should be given some leeway. |
Actually, I think its perfectly fair. For those who are secure in their marraige and decide to swing, and go about it in the right way, it enhances and strengthens the marraige. But you are right, it is not for everyone. So what happens to those who swing once, don't like it but were secure in their marraige? Most likely they look at each other and say "Well it was not that much fun, why don't we find something else?" and they move on. They do not let it ruin their marraige, nor do they let it come between them. Its more like trying on shoes. You buy a pair, they looked great in the store, but when you put them with that dress you bought em for, they just aren't right. What do you do? Take em back and get your money or stick em in the closet to collect dust. No harm no foul. It becomes simply a lesson, a learning experience, and noone is worse for it.
But he came here ranting about how it destroyed his marraige. So I honestly believe (If it wasn't just a troll) that there was a problem there and they thought swinging would fix it. Which as we can see from the guests post, did not happen.