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Originally Posted by Unregistered We Did It..a 3 Some And Have Had Nothing But Flash Backs And Bad Memories...we Found Out The Hard Way..that All We Ever Needed Was Each Other. If You Love The One You're With..don't Ruin It By Inviting Someone Into Your Love Life.....we Made A Bif Mistake And Wish It Hadn't Ever Happened Now.
Seriously Before You Do Think About It And Realize It's Only Lust And Only Lasts For A Few Minutes The Bad Memoried Last Forever! |
Possibly the Swinger's Board should have a Disclaimer saying that swinging may or may not result in your desired outcome. Enter at your own risk.
If you enter into any situation expecting to fail, you probably will. If either the husband or wife really doesn't want to swing but does anyway, they will be quick to say, I told you so. Jealousy is many times a major problem that rips apart the arrangement.
A major skill in swinging is being able to screen potential playmates. You have to feel comfortable with the other people.
Each spouse has to approach swinging as a gift that they are providing for their mate.
You have to keep making love reserved for your mate. If you give your swing partner the same intimate words and gestures, you will confuse the mechanics of swinging.
Some people have a very rigid conscience, that will not allow them to do anything wrong, based on their standards. For these people the feeling of guilt will dominate their life.
For the couple that claimed to have had a bad experience, you had a learning experience. I would bet that if you could have gotten with one of the experienced couples, that frequent the Swinger's Board, you would have had a good experience.
For us, swinging has been great and highly recommend it for couples equipped to handle the emotional demands.