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friskymonkey · 11-08-2006, 09:45 PM

I have to admit that the first couple we met in the lifestyle were nearly as inexperienced as we were and while it was fine for drinks, no one really knew how to take it from there (especially us two women who the party was supposed to be centered around). Then the other husband suggested an elaborate date starting at their house, watching porn, girls playing dress up for the boys, then dinner, dancing and off to a sex club. I freaked out. It was too much, I felt overwhelmed, couldn't find my attraction to any of it. So we bailed.

The next couple we met was very experienced. We took it slow and after getting to know them a bit I suggested that we meet them at a club. She was so cool and low pressure, yet very appreciative of me and very skilled at every part of the seduction. It was great! She knew just how to woo me and make me feel comfortable. We had a great time. And she had a blast, too, in spite of the fact that they're normally a full swap couple and we're not.

So for me, the experienced couple was perfect. Not to say that a less experienced couple couldn't have worked out also but it was great to have someone who knew the ropes to gently take the lead.

I plan to become more emboldened as I become more experienced. I look forward to being the veteran who intiates the newbie someday.

11-08-2006, 09:45 PM	#15 (permalink)
friskymonkey Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 20 Location: SF bay area Status: couple	Re: Newbies: Who would you rather play with? I have to admit that the first couple we met in the lifestyle were nearly as inexperienced as we were and while it was fine for drinks, no one really knew how to take it from there (especially us two women who the party was supposed to be centered around). Then the other husband suggested an elaborate date starting at their house, watching porn, girls playing dress up for the boys, then dinner, dancing and off to a sex club. I freaked out. It was too much, I felt overwhelmed, couldn't find my attraction to any of it. So we bailed. The next couple we met was very experienced. We took it slow and after getting to know them a bit I suggested that we meet them at a club. She was so cool and low pressure, yet very appreciative of me and very skilled at every part of the seduction. It was great! She knew just how to woo me and make me feel comfortable. We had a great time. And she had a blast, too, in spite of the fact that they're normally a full swap couple and we're not. So for me, the experienced couple was perfect. Not to say that a less experienced couple couldn't have worked out also but it was great to have someone who knew the ropes to gently take the lead. I plan to become more emboldened as I become more experienced. I look forward to being the veteran who intiates the newbie someday.