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ohhandahh · 11-08-2006, 03:06 PM

First time swinging or experienced, I think it is the rules that count. Do you both have the same rules? Do you both expect the same thing? Are you good company for each other? These are the important things, not how many other people someone has been with. I beleive that experience is a good thing. I couldn't even operate a debit card machine until someone showed me. Not that newbies need to be shown how to do it, but you know just a little more about comfortability, mood setting and getting down to sex and into bed with another couple after you have experienced it. It would seem easier with couples who have been there, done that and are willing to make the moves and do things first timers may be uncoomfortable in showing their desire for experiencing.
I dont believe anyone thinks they are better at sex or more desirable than first timers. I think there are a lot of thing like jealousy, modesty, concern for their spouse and other issues that newbies have yet to actually experience.
They may, after the first time, decide it is not for them. It would make the get together less of the good time they are hoping for and know that all have 'done it', and are truly ready to play without reservations.
No one is putting newbies down. Who doesnt like "fresh virgin meat"? You are desireable to all, but until you prove to yourselves that you are all for it, you are an unknown to all who see you as first timers. We all started with our first time. Just find someone who will make it easy for you to enjoy it, and drop the attitude anyone thinks they are holier than thou. That in itself is a turn off you need to get over. You are much to serious about this as an issue, it is a discussion you should learn from, things you should think about to make sure you are truly ready and make that clear to potential couples and let them show you what they have learned. It isnt rocket science, it is understanding the understandable things people think about when choosing another couple to share their most intimate sexual moments with.

11-08-2006, 03:06 PM	#8 (permalink)
ohhandahh Active Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 25 Location: seneca Il Status: couple	Re: Newbies: Who would you rather play with? First time swinging or experienced, I think it is the rules that count. Do you both have the same rules? Do you both expect the same thing? Are you good company for each other? These are the important things, not how many other people someone has been with. I beleive that experience is a good thing. I couldn't even operate a debit card machine until someone showed me. Not that newbies need to be shown how to do it, but you know just a little more about comfortability, mood setting and getting down to sex and into bed with another couple after you have experienced it. It would seem easier with couples who have been there, done that and are willing to make the moves and do things first timers may be uncoomfortable in showing their desire for experiencing. I dont believe anyone thinks they are better at sex or more desirable than first timers. I think there are a lot of thing like jealousy, modesty, concern for their spouse and other issues that newbies have yet to actually experience. They may, after the first time, decide it is not for them. It would make the get together less of the good time they are hoping for and know that all have 'done it', and are truly ready to play without reservations. No one is putting newbies down. Who doesnt like "fresh virgin meat"? You are desireable to all, but until you prove to yourselves that you are all for it, you are an unknown to all who see you as first timers. We all started with our first time. Just find someone who will make it easy for you to enjoy it, and drop the attitude anyone thinks they are holier than thou. That in itself is a turn off you need to get over. You are much to serious about this as an issue, it is a discussion you should learn from, things you should think about to make sure you are truly ready and make that clear to potential couples and let them show you what they have learned. It isnt rocket science, it is understanding the understandable things people think about when choosing another couple to share their most intimate sexual moments with.