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Originally Posted by Pinmonkey .....but is there anything that I can do to help her? Do stretch marks eventually go away? Will she ever be sane again? Will her body go back to "normal"? Will we be able to get a babysitter for the night? (It sounds like the end of an episode of "Soap" doesn't it? lol) |
First, Congratulations on the baby! I am SO ready for grandchildren! But then again my kids don't seem to have found the right mate yet, so I guess I'm lucky they haven't presented me with any yet!! But BABIES are SO WONDERFUL!!
Is there anything you can do to help her? Of course this depends on your situation, but I'd say one of the most important things to do is 'listen'. Help with the baby when you can, and maybe bring home flowers now and then... remind her that she's still being thought of all the time. And I don't mean spending tons of money on flowers, but maybe a single rose, or a bunch of flowers they sell at the grocery stores. Just remember her!
Do stretch marks ever go away? Not that I know of - but they do fade and they get smaller. There are many products you can buy, but the doctors will tell you that a vitamin E product is the best for reducing the size of the stretch marks. But even if they don't get smaller, lighter, or blend in - it really doesn't matter. She'll learn to wear the badge of motherhood with pride, hopefully! I've been in nudist hot tubs and almost every woman in the hot tub have had stretch marks! No body cared!
Will she ever be sane again?
Of course. But it might take awhile!
Will we be able to get a babysitter for the night? THAT's a hard one for the first time! Unless you have a trusted grandparent, aunt, uncle, good friend, etc., it's super hard to trust someone with your baby the first time. It gets EASIER and EASIER!
Of course you'll end up with a night out! It's important!
No matter what happens with the swinging - your wife needs some extra attention - and hopefully she'll realize that you do too! Having that new baby is wonderful - but so is your relationship. Don't ignore either one!
Good luck!
Sarah