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Originally Posted by NJCouple We've discovered in our first 6 months of swinging that experience is not what counts, but the ability to communicate and to have patience etc. For instance, we had several soft experiences with a newbie couple and he was having difficulties with an erection. It didn't faze us. We enjoyed their company and had fun. We've run into the same situation where an experienced person was freaked out on our first full swap when hubbies erection disappeared with the donning of a condom for the first time. The mood was ruined because of their lack of acceptance. (I look at it as my win, as hubbies erection returned without a problem and I got to enjoy it!) My take on it is that it takes good people that are willing to go with the flow and enjoy themselves. I would think that would be easier for experienced swingers, but personality plays a big role as well. We haven't had a problem since and I think it is a matter of finding the right match. We've only played a few times really, but we've made some great friends in and out of the bedroom. Even if you don't become fast friends, that mesh of personalities, I think, is the key to great sex.
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We're not veterans and we aren't newbies...and could not agree more with what you had to say!
(that's how we felt as newbies too)