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OhioCouple · 02-13-2003, 09:46 AM

I would have to say that we were both flooded with emotions after our first time.

I think the drive home was probably one of the longest that we had ever had as we didn't really know how to begin talking to each other, (even though we knew we should). I can't remember which of us started the conversation but as soon as it began, the flood gates were open. I am usually the more talkative one and tend to analyze everything, but my husband actually had a whole lot more to say than I did. (Imagine that...

) I don't think he was nearly as prepared for the morning after, as I was, and he had what seemed like hundreds of questions. Continually asking how I felt, what I thought....etc., and not really addressing his own fears or insecurities. It took us several days of talking to decide whether or not we would persue this again and since then we approach each encounter in a much different manner. I think it had more to do with his lack of understanding the emotions that can crop up, but not willing to admit to them for what ever manly reasons.

We did not have any jealousy issues, I think we were just in awe of what had happened which was totally different than anything that either of us had experienced before. Our encounters today are nothing at all like the first and what we experienced afterwards, we are both comfortable in what we are doing and more settled. And of course now we can freely talk about anything without reservation with each other, sometimes before we get out the door.

Lori

02-13-2003, 09:46 AM	#7 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	I would have to say that we were both flooded with emotions after our first time. I think the drive home was probably one of the longest that we had ever had as we didn't really know how to begin talking to each other, (even though we knew we should). I can't remember which of us started the conversation but as soon as it began, the flood gates were open. I am usually the more talkative one and tend to analyze everything, but my husband actually had a whole lot more to say than I did. (Imagine that... ) I don't think he was nearly as prepared for the morning after, as I was, and he had what seemed like hundreds of questions. Continually asking how I felt, what I thought....etc., and not really addressing his own fears or insecurities. It took us several days of talking to decide whether or not we would persue this again and since then we approach each encounter in a much different manner. I think it had more to do with his lack of understanding the emotions that can crop up, but not willing to admit to them for what ever manly reasons. We did not have any jealousy issues, I think we were just in awe of what had happened which was totally different than anything that either of us had experienced before. Our encounters today are nothing at all like the first and what we experienced afterwards, we are both comfortable in what we are doing and more settled. And of course now we can freely talk about anything without reservation with each other, sometimes before we get out the door. Lori
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