The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Feeling up without asking: is this normal?

Mrs.PaganLovers · 11-01-2006, 08:59 PM

Ok, never been to a house party and from the sounds of it, probably won't. I have been lucky and no one has ever gotten out of hand, except one time at a club, and it wasn't one of the guests. There was a band there and it was open mic (it was a swingers club). We were playing drums with the band (which was a vanilla band), the lead vocalist came up to me and grabbed my hand and pulled it to his crotch. I took my hand out of his reach. The other time was when I was modeling in a vanilla club and a guy tried to untie my evening gown in the back. It was the end of the night, I was tired and my feet hurt (don't ever pick on a woman when her feet hurt!), I grabbed the back of my dress with one hand and drew the other hand back and hit him. I am a small woman and it just bounced off of him (hhmm remind me to ask Pretty Lady for lessons). The next thing I said was "what makes you think you have the right to put your hands on me!". Needless to say, he back pedaled pretty damn quick.

Having said all that, I realized that my reaction in the vanilla club was much different than in the swingers club and it shouldn't have been. No one has the right to put their hands on me unless it is invited! I guess it was because of the different atmosphere, it will never happen again. I don't care where I am or the expectations, there are jerks everywhere, and they will be promptly put in their place by this little lady, and they will be reminded that I am a LADY. Ladies stand up for yourselves and speak when someone is out of line!
Ok, jumping off my soap box now.

Blessings
Mrs. PL

11-01-2006, 08:59 PM	#8 (permalink)
Mrs.PaganLovers Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 246 Location: In my house Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:paganlovers	Re: Feeling up without asking: is this normal? Ok, never been to a house party and from the sounds of it, probably won't. I have been lucky and no one has ever gotten out of hand, except one time at a club, and it wasn't one of the guests. There was a band there and it was open mic (it was a swingers club). We were playing drums with the band (which was a vanilla band), the lead vocalist came up to me and grabbed my hand and pulled it to his crotch. I took my hand out of his reach. The other time was when I was modeling in a vanilla club and a guy tried to untie my evening gown in the back. It was the end of the night, I was tired and my feet hurt (don't ever pick on a woman when her feet hurt!), I grabbed the back of my dress with one hand and drew the other hand back and hit him. I am a small woman and it just bounced off of him (hhmm remind me to ask Pretty Lady for lessons). The next thing I said was "what makes you think you have the right to put your hands on me!". Needless to say, he back pedaled pretty damn quick. Having said all that, I realized that my reaction in the vanilla club was much different than in the swingers club and it shouldn't have been. No one has the right to put their hands on me unless it is invited! I guess it was because of the different atmosphere, it will never happen again. I don't care where I am or the expectations, there are jerks everywhere, and they will be promptly put in their place by this little lady, and they will be reminded that I am a LADY. Ladies stand up for yourselves and speak when someone is out of line! Ok, jumping off my soap box now. Blessings Mrs. PL